Chronic Snarkopolist: Chronic Illness and Adversity
Hello my loves!
I just read an article that discussed life adversity. In it people who dealt with some adversity in their lives reported feeling more satisfied than those who had never dealt with any major adversity or who had suffered a great deal. Of course, I thought about this and realized this always depends on where you are in the middle of your adversity.
Adversity is a bitch when you’re smack in the middle of it. You look around and feel the whole world is against you. Sometimes your perspective depends even on your mood or the time of day. When you are all alone or going through the initial stages of any challenge it always feels as though you will never make it. The mountain seems too tall, the journey too long. And even when the trial is over, sometimes we cannot face it for many years until we have time to sort through it with someone who can keep us safe. Emotions are strange things.
I spoke to a friend who often has charming wit and listening ears. I bemoaned how I cannot possibly go through more adversity and can certainly never be able to rise from the phoenix ashes again. The response, “At 0333 in the oh-dark, on sleepless nights, it can be hard to bubble with glee…”
Sometimes adversity hones us with fires we never wanted to face and we come out with steel we never knew we’d find. Over and over we watch each other face it. We learn to take care of each other when we feel the most wounded. We learn to be vulnerable. We share our stories with each other. The wounded heal each other. And though I have seen plenty of people beaten down by life, I have also seen people coddled to the point of being genuinely incapable of handling even the lightest adversity. There is a happy medium. There are also simply differences in our psyches. Being loving and cared for is important and powerful. And sometimes doing the loving and the caring is equally important.
Most of us are engaging DT as a response to adversity. We are all here as a community healing and sharing.
What do you do when you are alone and have no one to talk to? What does anyone do? Do we always have effective behaviors or do we wallow for a bit? Is there a good way to get through adversity? Are you going through it now or are you in the middle of remission? Are you just getting diagnosed or are you three light years away from it? Tell me! I must know!
I’m taking one week off, then I’ll be back same time the week after next week! Kiss kiss!
Tags: chronic illness and adversity, Chronic Snarkopolist Chronic Illness and Chronic Adversity, coping with chronic conditions, finding support, finding your way through chronic disease, Living with Chronic Illness, managing adversity, managing strange emotions, written by Melissa Travis