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Anatomy of Patient Empowerment, Word!

Post Published: 18 April 2011
Category: Dear Doctor Letters, Dear Thyroid Letters
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Dear Doctor,

I was under the impression that you were the one with advanced medical knowledge and would be able to diagnose what was wrong with me.  I didn’t plan on paying you to do that only to come away with “it’s all in your head” as that diagnosis.  I’m appalled, hurt, scared and have lost all respect for you and many of your “colleagues”.  You made me this way.

I came to you feeling ill.  My hair was breaking off, my skin was so dry I had patches of scales in spots, my nails were breaking off constantly, I was gaining weight no matter how hard I worked to keep it off and the fatigue…..I couldn’t get enough sleep.  And every time I swallowed it felt like I had a golf ball stuck in my throat.  The sound of my voice was starting to change…I was scared.

I asked you if I could possibly have Hypothyroidism, I also told you that my Sister had thyroid cancer and had to have her’s removed.  First you said that “it’s doubtful you have hypothyroidism” and that “people want all kinds of tests to prove that they DON’T have something and those tests aren’t necessary”.  You told me you were “disappointed” with my current weight.  I told you that I had been on a diet, eating no more than 1,200 calories a day and exercising an hour a day 6 days a week.  I’d step on the scale after a week of this and will of gained 2 pounds!  Your response was “Hypothyroidism doesn’t cause weight gain, if you don’t eat so much you won’t gain weight”.  You told me to use a different lotion for my dry skin and to change the shampoo I was using to help my dry hair.  You told me to “get more sleep” and I wouldn’t be so tired all the time and you said your diagnosis was that I was “depressed”.  I have to give you that, I WAS depressed but depression wasn’t causing my symptoms….and those symptoms were why I was depressed.

I told you that you were a poor excuse for a Doctor and I fired you.  That was my right.  And to be proactive in my own care I “grew a pair” and let you have it with both boots.  You have no right having a license to treat people…you were no more a “doctor” than I was.  I felt empowered after I left your office but still so hurt and confused….I may have fired yo,u but I still didn’t feel well.

I found a new Doctor who listened to me.  You made note of the fact that I had an immediate family member with thyroid cancer and you did something the other “Dr.” never did, you felt my neck and then ordered blood tests…..and a thyroid ultrasound.  I have hypothyroidism, and I have lumps on my thyroid.  I’m still waiting for the results of the ultrasound.  I’m still scared but at least I feel I’m now with someone that is hearing what I’m saying, someone that has taken me seriously and that actually cares about my health.

Thank you Dr. H!  And Doctor D, you should have your licenses revoked….immediately.  I am going to continue to be proactive in my own care no matter what the results are.  Having empowered myself, I feel as though I can ask any question, and if that Dr. doesn’t answer it I can demand that they do….and if they get their shorts in a wad over that, well, the hell with you….your a paid service, if you don’t serve I’ll take my money elsewhere…..


(Bio) Business owner of 2 online stores, grandmother of 11, Mom to 3 sons and 3 beautiful daughter in laws and crabby wife!  My passion is sewing and my hobbies are gardening, reading and snorkeling.

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7 Responses to “Anatomy of Patient Empowerment, Word!”

  1. Monica says:

    Hi Melana,

    Glad you fired Dr. D (Dick) and found Dr. H (Heavenly). It’s a shame when the doctor doesn’t listen to you and says you are depressed. Good for you for taking care of yourself. More power to you!

    ☮ ♥

  2. HDinOregon says:

    Hi Melana!

    Yeah! So good for you! You stood up for your rights. – I also fired an endo for similar shortcomings. And, I have requested (or rather demanded) second opinions. Any doctor who is afraid of a second opinion, is not worth his medical license. –

    I hope your scan results are negative (one of the few times where “negative” is actually something “positive”)!

    Hang in there, we’re rooting for you!

    HD in Oregon

  3. Mary says:

    I found reporting such doctors to your state board of medicine they will get chastised and watched. Also very empowering. So happy you found the right doc they are rare and hard to find. Mary

  4. ByNanasHands says:

    Thank you for the kind comments. The scan showed something worth “taking a closer look” and and he did a FNA…it was neg. for cancer. I’m on meds now but was told it could take months to “regulate” the dosage…not feeling any better yet but my attitude is better now that I know I’m not crazy and there was actually something wrong!

  5. Larisa says:

    Congratulations! I am very happy for you, even happier to know it is not cancer. The meds do take a while to kick in but you will feel better soon… and if they dont you take that KICK BUTT attitude into the office and let them know ITS NOT WORKING. Everyones body is different and reacts differently. So dont take the answer it works/ed for someone else you are an INDIVIDUAL patient and should be ALWAYS treated that way. Feel better soon!
    Larisa~ Thyroid Cancer Survivor 1 year 7 months to infinity and beyond! :o)

  6. Heather says:

    Thanks Melana! Just what I needed to hear before calling a meeting with a local “health” organization to find out why they are not treating my local area correctly for hypothyoidism. UNBELIEVABLE the crap some doctors spew. . . so glad you decided to take matters into your own hands, more people should. Sitting back and waiting to hear nothing is wrong, just like the rest of the “cattle” coming through the office is getting really old, as I am sure you know. Keep it up! and good luck with the medication. It does take some time to find your write dose/medication, but well worth it in the end.

  7. Pierre William Trudel says:

    Hi Melana,
    The Dr. that told me to stop eating salt and said he would take care of me was the same one that did not listen to me. Like you I fired him from my mind and remain bitter.
    I feel so much shame for the Doctors that made an oath and are too overwhelmed to help change the system.
    Why do we have to be the guinea pigs to such abuse.
    I feel real sorry for all the patients waiting in line, today, to listen to people they have no choice but respect, and yet, might die because of the lack of respect in return.
    I am a human being,you are a human being.We all have God’s blessing to share our lives with the world.
    I will continue my Quest to let others know about the choices they have.
    You are an inspiration and share your story.
    With tremendous respect,
    Thee Quest For Perfect Health

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