Chronic Snarkopolist: Leaving Bread Crumbs
Hello my loves!
A friend of mine who is healing from a broken wrist on top of her other chronic illnesses said to me, “I am finding my way back.” Anytime we have additional kicks in the pants they ad more stressors and we have to work harder to deal with the small things. Meanwhile – the little things count, the hugs, the texts, the phone calls- these things matter.
For many months I was a member of a “chatty woman’s group” and all we did was e-mail each other and give updates on each other’s lives. I never knew how much I depended on that group until it was no longer there. We’re all still around, we just no longer e-mail and update as often.
Somehow keeping connected and sending cards and touching base kept us all feeling supported. These social supports are important. What we do here, writing, blogging, redefining ourselves, sharing and yes, finding our way back.
On my trip to Atlanta I reconnected to many people I love. I felt healed by the love and support. More than anything I was in familiar territory. But when I was there I remember being ill and cranky and unsupported and sick. Looking back with clear vision is easy. Looking forward into a murky future is much more difficult. And of course, I always hear about “the present moment” and living in it- though doing so is much harder said than done.
So how is it that we find our way back? Or are we finding our way forward? Or are we blazing new trails? Or all of the above? Are we constantly creating new versions of ourselves when we’re being diagnosed and re-diagnosed and treated (and mistreated) and losing and re-finding friends? How does this work? Tell me! I must know!
I will see you same time next week! Kiss kiss!
Tags: blazing new trails, building new supports systems, chronic illness triggers and reminders, Chronic Snarkopolist: Leaving Bread Crumbs, finding our way back to ourselves, losing support systems, moving forward, reconnecting with old friends, written by Melissa Travis