Life Through Lipstick Lenses: Chocolate Cream- A beautiful bronzy-brown lipgloss
Have you ever wanted to use your illness or former illness as a means to stop someone’s complaining? This is something I struggle with at times because while my perspective on life has changed after a few rounds with cancer, everyone else’s (it seems), is still the same. Recently an acquaintance at a ‘ladies night out’ was complaining about her hair, the color, how her hairdresser couldn’t get it right, how her extensions wouldn’t stay in, etc….really? Is this your biggest obstacle? It seemed the only thing she could talk about and she complained about this particular thing most of the evening asking who our hairdressers were, etc. On another occasion I was with a male co-worker who complained non-stop about how his wife (who also works) never made dinner and never cleaned. I immediately replied, “I’ve had cancer three times and the doctors still think there are cancerous tumors in my neck.” That pretty much stopped him cold.
My new perspective has shown me what’s truly important. My tolerance level for complainers has really decreased, especially if it’s something as insignificant as hair color. Have you experienced the same thing? For the girl with the excruciating decision whether to change her stylist…who cares? She’s lucky to have hair she can mess with. Mine goes from thin to thinner depending on whether my thyroid med dose is enough or not. For my co-worker who’s disappointed with his wife….so what. Have you stopped to talk to her, does she spend time hanging out with you and the kids? Is her thyroid in check? Anyhow, time is all we have and if we focus on the minutia, we miss out. It’s hard to have experienced such life change and resume the same path as when you left. It’s like being on a boat during a tropical depression (yes, I’ve been there with 30 foot waves) then stepping on solid ground; you’re a little off balance, thankful enough to kiss solid ground, yet no one even knew there was a storm in the first place. Ellen Langer says, ‘In the perspective of every person lies a lens through which we may better understand ourselves.’ I’m thankful for my new perspective. I know that people all come from a different place and if it’s not cancer, it’s something else. I also know that under every complaint is insecurity so I try not to get too irritated. We all have our junk…
This week’s lipstick is Chocolate Cream lipgloss because it’s a gorgeous bronzy brown color for fall. Also, for me, when I want to complain, a candy bar usually helps (I’m a chocolate lover)!
Written by, Anna Warner