Life Redefined: Finding Normal
I frequently talk about how much I’ve changed since being diagnosed with cancer. And it’s true, I have changed so much. But this past weekend I started thinking about all of this change. I realized that whether I was diagnosed with cancer or not, change was inevitable. No matter what course my life has taken or will take, I am going to change. Sure, it’s not always going to be welcome, but it’s something I have to learn to accept.
Dealing with unwelcomed change is so much harder for me than dealing with welcomed change. Duh, Joanna. But seriously, dealing with unwelcomed change is a monumental task for me. This past weekend I had a bit of a breakthrough. A bunch of college friends and I spent the weekend together in the mountains. These friends were all people who knew me BEFORE cancer. In college, we were a pretty tight-knit group. Spending the weekend with these people was so restorative for me because a part of who I was pre-cancer was revived. Each and every one of us has changed since college, but we were able to hang out together like we always have, IN SPITE of change. That’s a big deal for me. I was reminded that even though I have dealt with so much unwelcomed change in the past few years, part of who I was pre-diagnosis is still alive. I was able to find a bit of the old normal and allow it to live alongside the new normal.
So now I need to figure out how to make sure I have more moments like I had over the weekend. I think if I can find more occasions where I see glimpses of my old self living in harmony with who I am today then I will actually feel like I’ve achieved a sense of normalcy in my life. Reconciling the differences between my old normal and my new normal is a difficult thing for me, but I know that doing so will allow me to move forward in life.
What do you think about all this normalcy talk? I would love to hear your feedback on the subject. How do you deal with your new normal? How do you achieve a sense of normalcy after being diagnosed with cancer? What works for you? I want to hear your tips and tricks on how you’re learning to accept who you are post-diagnosis.
Lots of love,
Tags: accepting change, changes caused by cancer, finding a sense of normalcy, Life Redefined: Finding Normal, living with thyroid cancer, new normal, old normal, thyroid cancer, Thyroid Cancer in Young Adults, thyroid cancer support, unwelcomed change, Written by Joanna Isbill