Struggling with Your Weight?
Last week I asked my community what they wanted to hear about, what topics they wanted addressed in my blog, and the highest vote went to WEIGHT. Here’s how one woman put it:
My husband would say more on sex drive, I say help me lose 10 pounds.
And then this lovely member of my tribe took it a bit further with her follow-up question when I asked permission to use her comment:
If I lose 10 pounds, will the sex follow?
This particular woman is 40. Her comment illustrates an important point relevant to most people who struggle with their thyroid. And it also relates to a super fun call I had two weeks ago with thyroid expert Mary Shomon and Baywatch actress Gena Lee Nolin. Together they are writing a book called Thyroid Sexy.
- Low sex drive seems less urgent to women than to their higher-drive partners.It goes further: high-libido partners are attracted to low-libido partners. It’s a recipe for disconnect, frustration, guilt and, well, sugar cravings.
- The unspoken symptom of thyroid issues? Low sex drive. I asked Mary and Gena about their experience in the thyroid world with low libido as a symptom. (“Dr. Sara, what is sex?” Gena asked). Gina shared her story, and I shared my own. Link here if you want to hear the whole conversation. [http://dl.dropbox.com/u/33652628/DrSara_GenaNolin_MaryShomon.mp3]
- Does 10 extra pounds decrease sex drive? How relevant is body image to your libido? Do you want to have higher sexual energy or is it mostly your husband who wants you to want sex more?
Oh, how I understand those 10 extra pounds at 40. Or 35. Or 45. Or 50+.
There’s a point that many of us can identify rather wistfully when our good metabolism takes a turn for the worst. Our hormones started to work against us.
For me, it seems like that point was age 35. That’s when I think my thyroid tanked. I had one kid and COULD NOT LOSE THE WEIGHT. No one checked my thyroid. After feeling like a failure, I got Jenny Craig’ed. Then I had another kid and was right back at that bracing exhaustion, bloated, fat, postpartum place again. I found my way to Weight Watchers. I counted points dutifully but didn’t eat such nourishing food. I lost the weight but it was friggin’ hard. My degree from Harvard Medical School was no help at all.
Then I looked around and noticed how my patients similarly struggled with baby weight, exhaustion, low sex drive. I started educating myself about functional medicine and more nuanced ways of looking at how the thyroid works in women, how it relates to the sex hormones (estrogen, progesterone and testosterone), and how insulin- and leptin-resistant we get in pregnancy. I saw how many women had thyroid symptoms for the first time after a baby.
I tested myself and found a borderline TSH at 2.9. Low T3. High insulin. High cortisol and high leptin. I changed my food plan. I got my leptin and insulin into the normal range, one avocado at a time. I became a yoga teacher and got my cortisol down (well, mostly down). It wasn’t overnight, but I learned how to get my hormones to support me rather than to screw me (and my weight).
I can’t go in depth on that topic now, but I’m doing a whole teleseminar event about hormones, vitality, weight and sex drive on October 12 at 1130am Pacific/ 230pm Eastern and here’s where you can register: http://www.saragottfriedmd.com/myths/ If you can’t join us, still register and we’ll send you the recording.
Written by, Dr. Gottfried
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